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Lots of people find Christmas difficult, organising family get-togethers, pacing the darkening streets looking for presents and pulling off a happy Christmas on a tight budget. But, whether you’re with friends and family or not, you might feel isolated and alone at Christmas. This can be really difficult, especially when it seems like everyone else is feeling festive.
Here are ten tips from SAMH (Scottish Association for Mental Health) to help you cope with the Christmas period, whether you’re alone, or surrounded by family and friends.
• Try to stay positive. Instead of seeing Christmas as a time to be dreaded or avoided, fight the cold and darkness and lift your mood by getting out a bit more. Experience the bustle and activity of Christmas, or see what Christmas events and activities are going on that you might want to attend.
• Don’t rely on alcohol to get you through the festive season. Some people find it easier to block out their pain or feelings of isolation, but remember – alcohol is a depressant, and will intensify any low mood you are already experiencing.
• Treat yourself! Once in a while, indulge yourself by doing something just for you.
• Do something that makes you feel good. In the run up to Christmas, you could try making a donation or volunteering with a charity that helps other people – it can be incredibly uplifting. Check the internet or your local library to see what’s happening in your area.
• Try and be more active physically. Yes, it might be cold or wet outside, but even a brisk, short walk can help improve your mood, and help you appreciate the season.
• At the end of the day, reflect on how your day has been and plan ahead for what you can do later, whether it’s the next hour or the next day.
• If your mental health is affected by the build up to Christmas and New Year, try preparing ways to make it an easier time for you. Could you find some talking therapies or counselling services from local organisations in advance? Could you have a chat with your GP about what you can do to stay well over Christmas?
• If you are alone and feeling emotional, acknowledge it. Maybe you’ll get tearful, regretful or sad, but try and think about why you feel the way you do. Something positive always comes from acknowledging how you feel and not bottling it up.
• Be analytical – what is it about Christmas that makes it difficult? Remember that despite the marketing and images of Christmas put out by the media, there are lots of people who don’t have a big, bright family Christmas.
• If you do need to talk to someone, remember that there are organisations there to help, whatever the season. See if there is a support group you could join that meets near you, or try calling one of these numbers.
Breathing Space on 0800 83 85 87
or
The Samaritans on 08457 90 90 90